a Coopers in Kazakhstan: November 2005

Sunday, November 20, 2005

Nov 19 - Arrived Safely!!!

We landed at Dulles 30 minutes early and cleared Customs and Immigration in a total of 5 minutes (after waiting 45 minutes to get off the plan and finding our luggage).

The ride back home was very quiet as we were all dead tired - Zarina slept most of the flight, but Mary and I got very little in between handoffs of Zarina to each other. Alex ended up entertaining a young military officer with tales and entertaining gameplay (at the end of the flight, I went to thank him for keeping Alex busy, but he waved me off and thanked Alex for "taking care of him").

You know how blessed you are when not only other passengers come up to you to tell you how good, polite, and well-behaved your kids are, but also the Flight Attendants. Alex continued on this trend by helping get the luggage, pushing one of the carts through customs and then helping load the van.


When we got back , I gave Zarina a little tour of the house - we started in her room (above).

And ended up in Alex's room (above).


Zarina became very excited, squealed alot, smiled and ran around (with a little help of holding onto the furniture. After dinner I took her back up and we crawled around before her bath.


When I asked Zarina how she liked her new room, she lay down on the floor and tried to go to sleep!!! I took the hint and put her to bed at 750pm. Shortly thereafter Alex passed out and I had to carry him to his bed. Mary and I conked out at 8pm.

We are home!!!!

Friday, November 18, 2005

Nov 18 - catnap before going home!!!!

We are ready to go home: packed and waiting for our ride at 1am for the 4am flight home.

I will update this with photos after we get home and have a fast connection.

Before our doctor's appointment on 17 Nov, we went to the Zoom store (mayne it's Zum?). This is an awesome department store, only it's filled with kiosk after kiosk of independent shops. On the first floor are electronics and appliances. On the second floor are clothing, perfumes, and other good stuff - we went to the third floor to see all the toys, souvenirs, cultural items, knicknacks, jewelry, china, and other cool stuff.

We found some very beautiful amber jewelry, I finally got a Russian hat (I'll post a picture in the future), and matrioshka nesting dolls, and a young girl's traditional outfit for Zarina when she is older (I will post photos later also). I have some pictures of the store in the camera and will post later - if you come to Almaty you must come here!!! They had traditional hats, leather shields, horse whips, chess sets, backgammon (the national game I think), traditional costume, pottery, artwork, other crafts, and more.

The doctor's appointment went fine except for one thing: We arrived early at 130pm for our 2pm appointment and then found out that they had the Brown's down for 2pm and us for 2:30. Well, we knew the Brown's weren't coming until close to 2:30, but they made us wait. And wait and wait (no doctor).

We finally saw the doctor at 2:40 and he gave a quick perfunctory examination and proclaimed Zarina fit. He said that they would have the paperwork ready in 5 minutes.

10 minutes later they asked me to come to the desk and I paid the bill. They said the paperwork would be ready in 5 minutes (where did I hear that before?). The Browns were called in at 3pm for their appointment.

1 hour later, I get the paperwork and we all beat feet back to the apartment for a good homecooked meal by Mary.

After the doctor's appointment we went to Sasha's house - he's the entrepeneur who outfits most of the families with cell phones and internet accounts. He also sells Kazak gifts - check out his website at http://www.kazakhcrafts.com/. Not only are there beautiful gifts to buy, but there is also a treasure trove of info on Kazakhstan. We got a Dream Quilt (http://www.kazakhcrafts.com/?id=almaty_kazakhstan_kazakstan&g=8&name=dreamquilts), a silk painting and a matrioshka nesting doll - then Sasha and his wife gifted Zarina with a beautiful doll and alex with a woolen toy camel and a woolen toy Yurt (traditional Kazak home).

This was a wonderful gesture - if you want unique and beautiful artwork or just gifts for someone else, please checkout his website. If you come to Kazakhstan, Sasha can fix you up with a rental cell phone and get you hooked up to the Internet.

On the 18th, we went to the Embassy and got Zarina her visa - now we can take her home. On the way back to the apartment, we went back one last time to the Zoom store to get some more souvenirs/artwork. We just coulddn't pass up all the crafts - Alex scored a set of boy and girl figures (Alex and Zarina maybe?) in traditional garb and Mary got some more jewelry (she deserves it and more).

We are all packed and this will be our last post from Kazakhstan. Stayed tuned for our triumphant arrival back home: Zarina becomes a citizen when we clear Customs.

Paka!

Wednesday, November 16, 2005

Nov 16


On Nov 15 we completed our paperwork including getting a passport photo for Zarina. Today we have the day off to wind down and see the city. On the 17th Zarina will have a medical examination for her visa/passport and on 18 Nov, we have our appointment to get the visa and passport. Time is flying quickly!!! We leave in only three days!!!






Today we decided to go into the mountains above Almaty and visit the ski resort. They also have an Olympic-class speed skating rink. There are several lifts and the peak lies around 11,000ft. We drove to the resort at 7852ft and took the first lift up to 8525 ft (it was about 20 degrees F). Many of the houses around the resort are $$million$$ chateaus. They are very beautiful.







It took 8 minutes to get this photo because Alex was having toomuch fun throwing snowballs.






Here we are preparing for our ride up the mountain - Zarina is in her carrier and is seeing snow for the first time (and experiencing the cold - fortunately her Space Suit keeps her vacuum packed and I have an extra blanket).















How's this for unexpected? We all go up the mountain and on the way down, who do we run into? The Browns including Tansey!!! Boy, isn't this a small world?

Monday, November 14, 2005

Nov 14 – Back in Almaty

Well, we are back in the former capital, Almaty. The plane ride was just under 3 hours and Zarina did very well. We'll have some of those pictures just as soon as I can get my hands on them.

This time the city feels totally different. The last time we were here many weeks ago, we arrived at 1030pm and left at 7am so we saw very little traffic and the city was relatively quiet. This time we arrived at 640pm and the city was busy with rush hour traffic and lit up like Xmas. Many of the building have colorful signs, and parts of the city are snarled with evening traffic. Now this city seems like any major US city.

Our driver, Vitali, quickly transported us across town to our apartment – this time we are staying in one of a cluster of tall apartment buildings. Traffic is much more imposing than in Uralsk and I wouldn’t dare cross at anything other than a crosswalk although many people here still just step out into traffic. Based upon my first post about traffic, I’d put it at a 7 or 8 – on par with New York or maybe a smidgen higher, but still much less than Italy. You have to be aggressive otherwise the other drivers will not let you in to turn or change lanes. Vitali drives very well and always makes his way through safely. He’s a big and strong guy and handles our suitcases with ease.

Here's the view of the complex's courtyard/quad from our 8th floor apartment.

Our apartment is luxurious by Uralsk standards and also compared to the one we first stayed at several weeks ago. In the adoption news group, this has been called the “Ikea” apartment and with good reason – we have hard wood laminate flooring, a modern kitchen including a dishwasher (no more dishpan hands for me!) and a much better laundry (we still have to hang clothes to dry).

<=Here's most of the kitchen!









Zarina after the completion of one of her fly-bys. The only reason this is not blurred is due to the use of my high-speed shutter setting (I am not kidding...much). =>>


There are two bathrooms and we have a large bed with a very comfortable mattress. The wood floor accommodates a walker that Zarina is able to propel at Mach-like speeds (watch out for your toes)!!!

Oh, and we have cable including CNN, FoxNews (woohoo!!!) and several English stations including a movie channel, ESPN, and MTV.

Since this is a cluster of apartments, there are is a common quad with an small adjoining playground for Alex and also a small grocery – I am able to make due with my poor Russian although if I ask for something I have to be careful – if I say “four potatoes” in Russian, I usually get 4 kilograms of potatoes.

Here's' the bathroom complete with Boot Washer! (just kidding, but does anyone have a manual for using a bidet?)

Tomorrow we will visit the Sisters office and get our paperwork completed for Zarina’s visa and American passport.

Saturday, November 12, 2005

Nov 12 - Departing Uralsk

I’m really going to miss Uralsk. We’ve gotten Zarina on a two nap schedule where she goes to bed at 8:00pm and wakes up at 7:00 am. So after Zarina is in bed Alex and I play cards. We have such a good time laughing and goofing off. We’ll be leaving on Monday afternoon for Almaty. It’s going to be really hard for me not to cry. Everyone here has been so kind and warm. It has been the best experience.

Friday, November 11, 2005

Nov 11 - Ready to Leave Uralsk

This is my last blog from Uralsk - I was going to post it last night, but we had some snow flakes which then turned to rain. I tool my last visit to the local shops and bought some ice cream for Alex and Mary. Okay, so it’s freezing. So what? Did you know Russia has the highest consumption of ice cream? We have many good memories from this place.

Alex and I visited the Bazaar today – it’s like a giant outdoor flea market, only they sell new stuff. There were very nice clothes, lots of shoes, cheap knockoff toys, jewelry, and even food. I was looking for a cool Russian or Kazak hat to keep my head warm, but apparently no one in the country has a head as large as mine (Mary says the same goes for my mouth). The large and extra large hats were even a bit tight on Alex.


Alex with a Mother-in-Law Wannabe – seriously! This is the Baby House Director. I couldn’t tell if she was really serious, but the interpreter explained to me that there was some sort of tradition in which I had to find Alex a future wife from Kazakhstan. Apparently the Director has a young daughter and thinks Alex is a good match. Every time she’s around Alex she keeps commenting on how beautiful he is and clucks all about him. She even looks like she wants to pinch his cheek.


The benefits of older children – here’s Alex helping feed Zarina.

Zarina in her first dress!!! Just wait until she has longer hair – Mary plans to give her all sorts of pig tails, Princess Leia buns, etc.

Speaking of Mary, I must relay this story – when we first got here, I was doing the dishes. To make sure the utensils stay clean in the rack, we put them with the eating end up. Now, if you don’t know Mary, she’s a bit of a perfectionist and in the kitchen it’s her way or the highway. Apparently I wasn’t doing something the right way (go figure) and she walks over and pushes me out of the way, “Let me show you how to so this.” I looked over and blanched – “Mary what about the fork sticking in your hand?! Doesn’t that hurt?” When she had reached in, she had skewered herself on a fork (it was way in there). She looked down and without changing her expression or making any untoward noises, scoffed and said “So? I’ve given birth.” If I didn’t already know it, I would have found out I married Super Woman (now Super Mom x2).



Do you see something wrong with this picture? Don’t ask me how or why.

Nov 11

We went to our first restaurant with Zarina today. The Burnetts with baby Mckenna are coming along too. Suzanne Scholten from the Peace Corps recommended a place translated as the Kid’s Café which has food for grownups and a playroom for the kids. It is kind of like a very small Chuckie Cheese. Alex had a good time but I think Zarina may have been a tad overwhelmed since she was unusually quiet. She ended up falling asleep near the end of our meal which worked out perfectly for us. The only drawback to this place was that they did not have a menu in English but Suzanne sweetly offered to come over to help us order. We got to meet Terry, another Peace Corps worker. He lives in an apartment right above the restaurant. All these Peace Corps workers are such fine young kids. They are so generous with their help. Please future visitors to Uralsk look them up and treat them and yourselves to some dinners out.



Lillian and Craig said that they get quite a few rude stares when they go out with Mckenna. We have not seemed to experience that so much. I think the key element is having a nine year old with a penguin hat to divert the attention.



It’s gotta be the hat – we’ve noticed lots of people gawking and having a laugh. We’ve even noticed some kids pointing it out to their parents and call it a pigeon ('Gooloobee' in Russian) and then get corrected. In Russian it’s pronounced 'Pinguin' (go figure).


Zarina and Mckenna on a play date. Mckenna is very cute and easy going and should be quite the heartbreaker when she gets a bit older.

Thursday, November 10, 2005

Nov 10 - Part 2

Yeah! We have a poopie. All is right with the world here in Kazakhstan. You know you are a parent when most of your dinner conversation is a discussion of the frequency and consistency of your kids’ bowel movements!

Nov 10 - Mary

Zarina is an incredibly easy happy baby. She is extremely inquisitive and very mobile so we have to watch her like a hawk since the apartments are no where near baby save. Each room has these huge steam heated radiators on the walls which keep our apartment very toasty but are very scary for any parents. Our only worry right know is that Zarina has not had a poopie since we picked her up. I started a little prune juice yesterday and that should get things moving.

Wednesday, November 09, 2005

Nov 9 part 2

Zarina slept until 8:30am. Okay, I admit it; I was worried so I woke her up. I woke up at 5:30am to get her bottle and diaper change all set up and I waited and waited and finally went in to make sure she was breathing and that woke her up.

Nov 9 - Mary

It is 6:15 am. I woke up to do my journal entry. Zarina is still asleep. She went to bed promptly at 10:00pm after a bottle. She only stirred once. There was a little crying but I don’t think that she was really awake because she stopped fairly quickly and went back to sleep.

I’ll post a little later to tell how the day went.

Tuesday, November 08, 2005

Nov 8 - Mary

We brought Zarina back to the apartment today! We got to the BH at 10:00am and went directly to the Director's office to sign the final paper work. The Director gave a nice farewell speech. We handed over gifts to her. Then we went up to the baby Group room with our gifts for the Doctor and caregivers. We dressed Zarina in her little snow suit—Masha said she looked like a cosmonaut. The caregivers gave their final hugs and kisses to Zarina and Mckenna. These women are fantastic caring women and I am so grateful for the excellent care that they took of Zarina. We then whisked Zarina off into the car which went straight back to the apartment. I think we are going to have a hairy time on the airplane when we fly home because Zarina does not like to sit still for any length of time.




Us and the Burnetts ready to go plus two of the caregivers and the Baby House Doctor

The babies here have quite the schedule. Apparently, they have four two-hour naps a day and finally go to bed for the night from 10:00pm to 6:00am. They also eat quite a lot of solid food. We will try to work on this schedule for the next two weeks.


Zarina getting her first meal with us - isn't that yummy?
She eats mashed potatoes, stew, and pretty much anything that's puree'd

Monday, November 07, 2005

Nov 7 - The Big Day in Court

Wow! We did it. Larry gave a beautiful speech (Olga even said so). Unfortunately, my eyes started to tear up and drain into my sinuses so I started to sniffle loudly through it all. The Prosecutor was reading a paperback book through most of the proceedings and when it came to the end when he was to recommend his decision he recommended that immediate execution be denied. He did this to all of the WPA familes and from previous blogs I kind of expected it. Still, I was hoping he would be on our side. Thankfully, the Judge ignored him and granted our application to adopt Zarina and our petition for immediate excecution. Well, when that happened the flood gates opened and I started to bawl like a baby. Okay, I’m embarrassed now. The Baby House Director came up and gave me a hug although it looked like she wanted to slap me and say “Snap out of it Woman!” We were so excited, we ran out of the building and forgot to take pictures. Alex sang “I got a Baby Sister. I got a Baby Sister” all the way back to the apartment and Igor laughed and laughed.

Since our court date was so late in the day we won’t pick up Zarina until tomorrow so Lillian had the great idea that we all have dinner at the Almaty resturaunt with Olga, Masha, Alia, Igor, Misha and Filipych. Misha is the Brown’s driver and Filipych was the Burnett’s driver. Alex and Filipych have a special relationship. Every time Filipych sees Alex he yells “Druk!”, which means friends or pals, and they give each other a big hug. It is very touching and funny at the same time. Unfortunately, Phillipich could not make it but everyone else was there and we had a great time. Alia gave the most beautiful toast where she said that we have made a mark on her heart and that she will always remember us. Every one here are such great and special people. Finally, my sweet Alex stood up and gave a toast. He stood up and held his juice glass high and said how he loved Uralsk and made many friends here. I am so very proud of him and so glad we brought him with us to experience this special time.


Dinner at the Almaty Restaurant again ! Olga is the lady in the center of the photo and Alia is to her right.



Enjoying Dinner! That's Craig with still another beer - I think it was called Shimshenk and Larry hopes it is available in the US.


Here's Olga giving her speech.

Nov 7 - Getting Ready (and antsy) as time gets short

This morning we visited Zarina for the last time (the next time we see her, she comes home with us!) and now we are just waiting for our Court hearing at 3:30 pm (KT).


Alex relaxes with a Game Boy

Olga went over how the questioning will go and I also have a speech to practice (just two minutes). Mary has to stand up and answer a few questions - she's not used to standing up in front of crowds and has been studying the timeline and questions intently.


Mary is a bit pensive as she tries to memorize her speech (all eight words -- ok, just joking -- she's going over all of the questions we may be asked)

Sunday, November 06, 2005

Nov 6 - Mary


We had great visits with Zarina and our final run through meeting with Olga. She prepares us for all the possible questions the judge and prosecutor may ask us. Everyone says that it is a piece of cake but we are still nervous as all get out.

Nov 6 - The Coopers are Ready for Court!!!

It's Sunday night now and we are making final preparations for the big day tomorrow. We go to court to have the adoption appproved on Monday 7 Nov at 3:30 pm (that's 5:30 am on the East Coast). We've gotten the pre-court hearing done and I have practiced my speech,. Now all we have to do is get to sleep. Even the weather is cooperating - we have had fog for the past three days and this morning there were some snow flakes, but this afternoon, the sky cleared and the sun shone bright!!!


New topic:
In the following sequence, you will see Zarina learning how to tell time.

She's looking at the watch - it's pretty and shiny, yes?


Okay, it's not a lollipop. Fortunately it's a dive watch (it can take salt water at 200m, so it can handle baby slobber, right?)

I need some help here. She's stuck to the watch. Does anyone have a crowbar?

Friday, November 04, 2005

Nov 4 - Lawrence

Today we visited one of the orphanages for the older kids - if they aren;t adopted from the baby houses by age seven, they are moved to this facility. Zhas Dauren is about 15 minutes from our apartment and houses about 400 kids. They all seem to be fairly upbeat and well adjusted. When we arrived, we handed out mail from American sponsor families - the children couldn't wait to read the letters form their "families." The sponsor famiies provde support with letters and also about 30 dollars a month - this provides the kids with supplies and necessities and also $900 when they come of age and leave the orphanage - that $900 will pay their first year at the university.






There are children from eleven different nationalities live in our Zhas Dauren children’s community. There are 18 family-groups with 14 to19 children of different ages and grades comprising each group. They live in groups to learn responsibility with the older kids caring for the younger children. 60 % of them are ages 14-18, 40 % of them are ages 7-13. children. There are 5 cottages in the community where 5 of these family-groups live. There are also two and three story buildings in which the other groups live. There is a combination primary and secondary school for students from the 1st through 11th grades. There is a large staff of employees, including teachers, cooks, medical workers, doctors, a librarian, mechanics/metal workers, and carpenters.


The children we met were fairly gregarious, inquisitive about the USA, and quite the hams. Alex quickly made some friends (maybe it was the penguin hat?). We were very impressed with the children, but also concerned as they do not have all they ned to get by - many kids were in open toe sandals/flip flops despite the 30 degree weather and most had fairly worn clothing. - so we have made the determination to sponsor one of the girls and help her get ahead, provide her with an American sponsor family, and give Zarina a big sister back in Kazakhstan.

Nov 4 - Pre-Court is over!

Big sigh of relief!
We survived the Pre Court. I was anxious because we were the third and last family of the day. But from what I heard from the Browns who were the first and the Burnetts who were the second, the questions asked became progressively less and by the time it was our turn we just got a few questions and were given our schedule for Court. The Judge had a very stern expression on his face and he never looked up from the paperwork on his desk. We will have our court hearing on Monday at 3:30. By the way, I have only mentioned Olga in passing. Olga is the coordinator for WPA in Uralsk. I have seen pictures of her in previous blogs but none have seemed to do her justice. She is a very attractive woman with the warmest smile and a very soothing mesmerizing voice. She is very charming and honestly tries very hard to make us all feel comfortable here in Uralsk.

The Burnetts our next door neighbors are great experimenters of flavor packets from the Atrium. Lillian Burnett found that the Maggi brand packet for spaghetti meat sauce was superior to the Shop Rite bottled brand. Yummy, thank you Lillian! Every morning I ask Lillian what she has tried then go out and get it at the Atrium. Lillian also got a care package sent from her family in Hawaii. She said that they sent it regular mail and it got here in little over a week! Lillian and Craig’s baby, Mckenna, is our Zarina’s playpen pal. In the morning when we go to pick up Zarina for our visit we often find Mckenna and Zarina zooming around together in little walkers. They are so cute together.


Zarina with McKenna and two other cutie-playmates


left to right: McKenna Burnett, Zarina Cooper, and Tansey Brown

After Pre Court we all visited Zhas Dauren, the orphanage for kids 7-18 year olds, we distributed the letters and photos that we brought from Jim and others who contacted us before we left. The kids were fantastic, beautiful kids. Suzanne Scholten says that there is a web site www.zhasdauren.kz/english/index.htm. I highly recommend that everyone who comes to Uralsk visit Zhas Dauren. It will be a special treasured memory. The kids need families to sponsor them. Just a few dollars a month would give them so much here.


Some Zhas Dauren children, including Jim Harding's sponsor-daughter Gulnara.

Thursday, November 03, 2005

Nov 3 - Preliminary Court Hearing Tomorrow

Tomorrow is a big day. As a way of blowing off steam, we went for a walk in the park. This park is a hostoric landmark and situated on the Ural river (I think-there's three rivers) behind their Olympic class stadium. It 's about a 1.5 mile walk from our Apartment and was very invigorating.


Once there we came across Mr Lenin. He was relocated form the city center and as you can see, seems very happy now.


Here's close up of my very happy (and soon to be tired) family.


They have many Soviet-era rides. I understand they still see use in the spring/summer/fall. This ferris wheel looks like it might be fun to try out.



Alex went up to this strangely dressed old gentleman and sat in his lap - then he started telling him what he wanted for Xmas. Fortunately the guy didn't say a word.


Here's Mary and myself takng a walk on the riverwalk.

Nov 3

At today’s morning visit we had the Minister of Education sit in to watch our interaction with our babies. It felt very weird, as if we were animals at the zoo on display. Olga, Masha, Alia, the Minister, and the Baby House Director sat along the wall while the three WPA families sat in the middle of the room trying to make our babies laugh and smile a lot. Tomorrow is Pre Court, Gadzooks, I hope I make it.

After the visit we decided to burn off some steam at Uralsk’s park by the river. Alex really enjoyed the slide of death!(see picture) By the third run down the slide and after his hinny cleaned off all the mud on it, he was able to really zoom down it at a terrifying speed.










At the end of the day, we came home and had a nice home cooked dinner and then Alex begged to mop the floor! Yay, no T.V. is great! You know a kid is really bored when they beg to mop the floors!

Wednesday, November 02, 2005

Nov 1-2

We heard Zarina cry for the first time today. Alex walked her to the far side of the music room right up to Masha, our part-time interpreter, when Zarina noticed that I was nowhere near her she let out a howl. I ran and swooped her up and she gave me a look as if to say “Don’t do that again, Mama!” followed by a big semi toothless smile. Breakthrough!



We are having a lot of fun here in Uralsk. Larry has discovered several great cookies and Russian beer. I’ve found great Russian chocolate and chocolate butter! Alex loves the meat and cabbage filled buns. He has also found ice cream on a stick that he is crazy about. It is strawberry flavored, colored pink and pale green and sprinkled with pop rocks. I was hoping to loose weight here—Fat chance now!


This is chicken-filled bread. You can also get meat and onions- or potato-filled. It's very tasty and makes for a qcuick meal (they cost about 50 cents each).


The only thing you can’t get here is a big leafy salad. Otherwise, the stores have everything. I even found “American” pre-sliced cheese so in a crunch with a béchamel sauce you could make mac and cheese for any finicky kids.